It really seems like I just started college yesterday, when in reality, I’ll be graduating in less than a year and the real world will actually become real. Am I ready? No. Will I ever be? No. You shouldn’t ever be ready for anything, just prepared; you can’t be ready for life because you never know what’s next – it’s totally out of your hands. Definitely a hard concept for me to grasp, mostly because I’m stubborn as hell.
Looking back now, I realize some of the things I’ve done are really, really dumb. But I don’t regret them, even if some involved carving the screen in my room out and throwing pumpkins out the window freshman year. Peer pressure, don’t give in to it. Actually, no, go ahead and give in, but only if it’s funny. Just promise me that you’ll never buy any pets in college, especially rabbits named Commander BunBun. Don’t do it. Fish are ok, though 😉
Here’s five (a little more serious) things I wish I’d known before I started college:
1) Not everyone is going to like you. Get over it, really. You can’t live through the fact that one or two people don’t like you, focus on the one’s who do and you’ll get a lot more fulfillment out of life. Giving attention to those who view you negatively is just going to instigate more problems anyway, and come on, drama is only fun when you get to sit back and watch it. Don’t deny it…you love it when people get their panties all up in a bunch (wassup, Jersey Shore?!) My best piece of advice…ignore them, or kill them with kindness – bake them cookies, or just simply smile. There’s enough negativity in the world already, don’t add to it.
2) Get organized. Duh, right? Seriously, though, you’ve gone from a little responsibility to being in control of almost everything. Don’t just organize your school stuff – organize everything from your food to your clothes. It’ll make mornings a lot less stressful when the clothes in your closet are actually folded or on hangers, rather than in a pile on your floor that you’re afraid to touch because something might be living under it. Being organized might also save you from gnawing your arm off because you can’t remember for the life of you where you placed (or misplaced) your Cheez-Its. I know Cheez-Its aren’t the greatest, but I can promise you they taste better than your arm.
3) Get involved. No, it’s not lame to go to college events and activities. I swear. The worst thing that can happen is you go, and you don’t like it – and the best thing to do then? Leave. If you find something you might be interested in, check it out; chances are you won’t be the only one and you’ll probably meet a lot of people. More people = more stuff to do.
4) Be smart about your health. Probably one of the biggest fears of freshman is gaining weight, which is totally preventable, and even if you do gain a few pounds – who cares? Chances are you’ll be the only one who’ll know, or notice for that matter. Of course, there’s going to be unhealthy moments – let them happen and move on. Not just regarding food and exercise – but mental health as well. Don’t get all pissed off at something you simply cannot change – leave the past in the past and move on. Had a really bad day? Make tomorrow better. YOU are in control of your life, no one else, so make decisions that you’ll be ok with tomorrow. Although I know that’s sometimes impossible, especially when fruity cocktails and dance parties are involved…but that’s a whole different story. The best way to stay healthy in college, in my opinion – worry about your own happiness, surround yourself with people who make you happy, think about your decisions (because they’re ALL your own), fit in some exercise a few times a week (stress relief, too!), carve out some “me-time” and “study-time” at least twice a day and remember who you are, and that change is ok. Let it happen.
5) Be confident. If you walk around with that hounding look on your face that screams “don’t talk to me”, I wouldn’t talk to you…and chances are other people won’t either. Remember that no matter how many zits decide to show up on your face that morning, no matter how many pieces of hair are sticking up like they’re on Viagra, people will still talk to you. People aren’t going to think any less of you just because you sat on a piece of gum and it’s now dangling between your legs – they’ll probably be nice and let you know, actually. Walk with your head up at all times and people will view you a lot more positively. Friendliness is probably the most attractive attribute you can carry with you, along with a smile. If taking a little extra time in the morning to fix your hair and makeup make you more confident, then do it. Anything that makes you feel better about yourself will make others feel better about you as well, happiness is contageous, and so is confidence. Oh, and if someone’s got toilet paper dragging from their shoe, or gum on their butt…please tell them after you’re done giggling.
What are some things you wish you knew a few years ago?
Peace and love!
p.s. I’m dying the underneath of my hair today! Wish me luck!
p.s.s. I’m still in the running for the next Bora Bora Bar flavor, and I’d really appreciate if ya’ll casted a vote for me, if you haven’t done so already 😀 I’m M.Morat, by the way, here’s the link http://ow.ly/2xZqD
Thank you to the moon 😀